There is no doubt that planning a wedding can be one of the
most daunting tasks a person can undergo. Since the majority of
the work traditionally falls upon the bride and her family
(let’s face it, the guys, largely, just don’t care if the
flowers are yellow and pink, canary and magenta, or goldenrod
and cherry) it is always a good idea to have the assistance of
a professional wedding planner or at least a trusted friend or
relative to help keep all of the details in order. That
assistant can take care of everything from ordering the cake to
making sure the reception seating arrangement is in order and
Uncle Herbert is as far from the bar as possible while Aunt
Helen and Aunt Gertrude won’t come in contact with one another
at all. One thing that will be entirely up to the happy couple,
however, is the decision on the wedding vows. This is one aspect
of the event that the groom will have to participate in as well.
The traditional wedding vows are immortal and familiar to us
all. We’ve all heard the phrase “to love, honor, and cherish,”
a million times before and, regardless of race, religion, or
nationality, we all immediately associate these words with the
marriage ceremony. There is nothing wrong with that. The
traditional wedding vows are powerful words of love and
commitment and, if you like those vows and they hold a special
place in your heart, then you should feel free to include them
in your wedding ceremony.
Many couples write their own wedding vows. The practice is now
so common that original wedding vows have almost replaced the
traditional vows as the norm for weddings, but that does not
mean that the time-honored vows are any less meaningful.
For those that do wish to write their own wedding vows, the
options are limitless. Some couples pen their wedding vows
completely from their hearts and minds, using this portion of
the wedding ceremony as an opportunity to express their love
and devotion to one another in a very personal way. Others
borrow literary quotes, song lyrics, poetry, or other
non-original material that expresses their feelings for their
beloved, to incorporate into their wedding vows. Anything that
says how you feel is acceptable.
A young spouse-to-be may sometimes experience writer’s block
when composing the wedding vows. This stems from anticipation
of the pending event and is perfectly natural. The best way to
overcome this anxiety is to slow down, close your eyes and
think about your fianc?e. Imagine what you would say if he or
she were right in front of you, with no one around. Find the
best way to tell that person how you feel, how deep your love
is, and what you promise to do and be as a husband or a wife.
The words will come in no time and the result will be a
beautiful wedding ceremony that is highlighted by beautiful and
personal wedding vows.
About The Author: Kirsten Hawkins is an event planner from
Nashville, TN. Visit http://www.wedding411.net/ for more event
planning tips, strategies, and resources.
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